Wednesday, March 2, 2011

What were you doing last year?

You know how people remember what they were doing on a certain day in history – such as the day of the World Trade Center disaster, Kennedy’s assassination, or the day that the Space Shuttle exploded?  Well, I’m sitting here today thinking of what I was doing last year on this day – the first Wednesday in March, 2010 – and while there are only a handful of other people who can relate to that day, it’s important to me. . .

I remember looking into the face of my best friend Sue’s doctor, standing in the hallway outside her hospital room, and saying, “Dr. ---, please be straight with us.  We don’t care what test results you’re waiting for, we want to know what YOU REALLY think.”  Looking back, I don’t know if I’d ask that question again, because I certainly wasn’t prepared for (or happy with) the answer he gave.  But the words are etched on my mind and I don’t know that they’ll ever leave.  Because it was on that day that he told us that in all his years of practicing cancer medicine, he had MAYBE seen cancer progress this fast 5 times; and that we only had, at most, a month left with Sue.  (Less than 48 hours later, she was gone – but that’s a story for another day.)

Please be in prayer for Sue’s family and friends this week who are missing her and remembering.  It’s hard to believe it’s been a full year since I’ve heard her voice on the phone (previous to that, we talked not once, but several times, every day).  Not a day goes by that I don’t think about her and miss her. 

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Cancer is a horrible, ugly disease.  My cousin Tim lost his wife to cancer on Monday.  I ask that you also remember Tim and his family as they prepare for the funeral services tonight and tomorrow.  It’s so hard to say good-bye. 

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My brother David is having surgery this morning (11am est) to repair his Achilles tendon, which he tore last week.  He’s an active guy with 4 little boys.  Being still for several weeks isn’t really in his nature. :)  (His orthopedic surgeon is the same one who did Ian’s casting for his broken leg a few months back.)

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On a more positive note, Brian and I were able to get out last night and celebrate our 19th anniversary.  Hard to believe it’s been so long!  (I wouldn’t recommend the ribs at Longhorn Steakhouse – I was NOT impressed!) 

6 comments:

Debbie Phillips said...

Hugs, Hugs, Hugs

I know you will be thinking of Sue this week. I pray the Lord comforts you heart. I will be praying for you and for her family.

Sorry your ribs weren't up to par. It stinks when you are celebrating and things don't go like you hoped... maybe you can have a do-over!!! :-) Hubby and I still have not done our do-over from our horrible anniversary debacle. We probably won't either since we want to go to CHAP. :-) I can't wait to give you hugs in real life instead of cyber ones!!!

Melissa said...

I will be praying for these families. We lost my father-in-law to cancer just a month ago.

Happy Anniversary!

Sheri said...

Happy Belated Anniversary dear. And will keep the families in my prayers. Hugs!

unsure of the future said...

{{{virtual hugs}}}

Time...they say...heals all wounds. But seriously, there is only ONE healer of the things that hurt us...and it isn't time! Although, after a while it does get easier. It was only in recent years that I could think of my best friend without tearing up, and she'll have been gone 22 years in June (she was killed in a car accident just before her high school graduation).

With you reaching this "milestone" though, means that we are only a month and a half from the 1st anniversary of my dad's passing...in some ways (as I'm sure you know too well) it doesn't seem possible, wasn't it just yesterday that they were here? Then again, this past year has been one of the longest I can remember. So many changes, so fast.

Praying that God blesses you abundantly with ALL the good memories you shared!

berrypatch said...

So sorry, Heidi. In two weeks I head to our state homeschool convention. Two years ago I went on Friday. Saturday I headed back to the hospital where my Mom was - she died later that day - MRSA which she contracted after having chemo for lymphoma/leukemia. I can't not think of that each year I go to the state convention. I am praying for peace and comfort for you.

Heather @ Marine Corps Nomads said...

March is a difficult month for me as well. The end of this month is the 14 year anniversary of the passing of my mom. She too had cancer. Cancer is an ugly, ugly thing.

The pain never really goes away. It just gets a little easier to endure. I'll always miss her and think about what should have been. I try to focus on the many wonderful things that were accomplished for the good of His Kingdom as others saw how she handled the ugliness of cancer.

I'm sorry that you have to grieve the loss of Sue. I'll be praying for you, your family, and Sue's family. (((hugs))) The Lord will be your strength and your comfort.

On a more positive note, Happy Anniversary!!

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